For the ATTENTION of Marmalade20009

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Feb 23

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Ab imo pectore – from the bottom of my heart

Marmalade I would like to make an impassioned plea on behalf of the wider Busymitts Family. I am not like yourself a latin scholar but when I searched the Internet for a latin maxim I think this should strike a chord with you. Ab imo pectore – from the bottom of my heart.
I have been reflecting on your comments, your blog and many of the remarks you have made over the past while on the Busymitts website. I know that you have caused some upset and other users have asked you to consider the remarks you have made. You always have quoted that you “Fear not to speak the truth”. I would like to speak some truth if it is permissible? I to subscribe to your “Freedom of Speech” however in any democracy it is not TOTAL freedom to say what you like without thinking of the consequences of what you have said or typed. In the CYBERWORLD this is very important. I think it was Fiona who made the very salient point that bullying is a repeated behaviour, and I think you must bear responsibility for some remarks which lack tact.

A little story; I have taught in a divided society now for a good few years and have experienced at first-hand the effects of division. It is really and truly a terrible, terrible waste of talent. I am now teaching in a prestigious Grammar School for the last 8 years where academic ability is fostered through motivation and self-esteem. It is a rewarding experience and I find it motivating. These are very important qualities for young people. I at first-hand have seen the benefits of motivating young persons.
People have made statements with devastating consequences. This is how the terrible conflict in the Balkans started with inflammatory language. So we on the Busymitts Family ask, plea, appeal, and DEMAND that you consider your remarks. If I have learned one thing from a divided society is that THERE ARE MUCH MORE THINGS WHICH UNITE US THAN DIVIDES US. This is very true here on the Busymitts website. Julieannb makes the very real point that young people embarking on crafting may feel undermined and discouraged by your – HARSH – yes HARSH remarks. I would much rather young people spend their time creatively than engaging in acts of anti-social behaviour, especially with pensioners and as we were reminded this week with the events in England. Perhaps you should STOP and consider your actions. I am not trying to isolate, cyberbully intimidate you. I think that if you come on board the Family have much more to offer you. PLEASE PLEASE consider this plea. I put on offer that I will help you in whatever way I can, emailing you patterns, information and suggestions etc.
I have met some very kind, generous and true friends not acquaintances! Their generosity and caring attitude is a paramount example of everything that is good about our family. Come on board marmalade and dig deep and look into your heart and yes there is goodness there! Remember the darkest hour is before the dawn and let this be the new dawning, a new chapter. I enclose the following lines;

The boneless tongue so small and weak,
Can crush and kill declared the Greek.
The tongue destroys a greater horde
the Turk asserts, than does the sword.
The Persian proverb wisely saith
A lengthy tongue - an early death.
Or sometimes takes this form instead,
Don't let your tongue cut off your head.
The tongue can speak a word whose speed
The Arab says outstrips the steed.
While Chinese sages thus impart
The tongue's great storehouse is the heart.
From Hebrew wit the maxim's sprung,
Tho' foot may slip ne'er let the tongue.
The sacred writer crowns the whole,
Who keeps his tongue doth keep his soul.
no time!
Well Marmalade. Firstly I have just checked your page and every item you have posted has had a fair amount of replies - all encouraging. How you can say that you have been excluded beats me - you obviously have tunnel vision and see only what you want to see. I wish you well on your tour and good luck with your operation and hopefully when you return you will feel much happier.
2010-02-23 17:37:36
annarrow says:
So well written Prettypink and thankyou too. This is a lovely site and so many lovely caring people on here and it has been very upsetting to see the unkind remarks from Marmalade. I hope she will read this and digest and hopefully it will make a difference.
2010-02-23 19:36:23
prettypink, that was a very wise post, and beautifully put, well considered, respectful and well, lovely. I am very much a newcomer on here, my intentions as mentioned in my profile to support my lovely friend, without who's support and that of my other LK friends, well, i dont know what i'd have done the last few weeks. if mutual admiration, family and speaking up both yourself and your friends is wrong, then we are all wrong and long long long may it continue! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2010-02-23 20:04:23
i had commented on this, but it didnt show up. i'll try again! prettypink, this is a beautifully, considerately written post - you obviously put alot of thought into it. I joined this site to support my lovely LK friend buzyknitting, and I have found some lovely people on here. We all need friends, and without buzyknitting, and my other LK friends I dont know what i would have done these passed few weeks since I lost my lovely dad. If mutual admiration, support, families, and respect for yourself and each other and speaking up for yourself and each other is considered wrong.... they we can all be wrong together. LONG LONG LONG may it continue! lots of love to you all xx
2010-02-23 20:35:32
oh bottom, it had posted - forgive me for repeating myself - Fred elliott moment! xxxx
2010-02-23 20:36:42
grandmum says:
I have not commented before on this 'debate' as I really didn't think this would go on. I'm not one to criticise other peoples crafts, I don't feel that I personally have the expertise in one let alone the many diverse crafts that are proudly shown here on this site. Proudly shown because it takes courage to display TO THE WORLD just what we have attempted to create. I do not consider that any single one of us has the right to be judgemental about another persons crafts, and most certainly not to be giving them a score out of 10! I have rheumatoid and osteo-arthritis plus some other incurable/painful conditions (and I am not the only person with ill health who contributes their makes to this site) and I shall join the ranks of pensioner in November. I do not use these conditions as an excuse to not craft myself nor to make disparaging remarks about the attempts of others at their chosen crafts. We are all human, not perfect and so my crafting is not perfect, but like many others, it is for my enjoyment and to the best of MY ability. I have found new friends here on Busymitts, real caring friends and I am extremely grateful for these friends - not just acquaintances. I hope you can find such friends, though I fear it will not be in the crafting circle. Why the need for the Latin quotes, what about a bit of good old English - Mrs Do-As-You-Would-Be-Done-By? (The Water Babies by Charles Kingsley) Caroline - well said, things can't be made much clearer! Jx
2010-02-23 22:11:45
debs02892 says:
here here well put prettypink .xx
2010-02-23 23:11:11
Su2ie says:
Well said Prettypink - I for one like looking at the crafts on here to appreciate the hard work people have done in their creations, whether they are perfect or not I think we should all be applauded for our attempts however great or small, not judged x
2010-02-24 15:08:48
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